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 A Valentines Day Ritual for Self Care

With research on the origin of Valentines day, we’ll find a few versions of  the Valentine tale that gives meaning to Valentines day associated with love. In Roman history, the Catholic Church recognizes at least three different saints named Valentine or Valentinus, all of whom were martyred. It is said that one of those Valentine’s  was a priest who served during the third century in Rome. When Emperor Claudius II decided that single men made better soldiers than those with wives and families, he outlawed marriage for young men. Valentine, realizing the injustice of the decree, defied Claudius and continued to perform marriages for young lovers in secret. When Valentine’s actions were discovered, Claudius ordered that he be put to death.

Today, celebrating Valentines day has become a tradition celebrated through romance and sharing love throughout the world expressed with hearts, roses, special dinner dates, gifts of chocolates and greeting cards and more. Yet with the awareness of how important self care is for self love, it’s time for us to also recognize that Valentines day might also be a day to celebrate Self Love for one’s self.

The energy associated with the essence of love is with the element of water. Water is a feminine element offering purification, cleansing, peace and harmony. We can work with water for meditation and spiritual ritual and can use water for healing and for self love. When we soak in water we feel supported and a cleansing of our soul. Preparing a special bath for yourself this V Day could be a sacred ritual you might want to consider for self care.

This is a beautiful recipe for a luxurious bath I was given by Mama Medicine’s, Deborah Hanekamp after a session with her. Taking a salt bath has so many benefits for healing providing minerals detoxification and relaxation. Adding herbs, incense, rose petals, crystals and essential oils are potent ingredients for added healing and energy clearing.

I like to take my time and prepare my bath with intention. I Light white candles and palo santo and listen to Native American flute music while I’m soaking and I keep a pitcher of water nearby for hydrating. Set up your bath according to what your most drawn to or follow the recipe below, and enjoy some beautiful selfie time for yourself, this Valentines Day.


3 Rosemary Sprigs

Petals of 4 Rose stems

Rosemary essential oil and Open your Heart blend from David Elliott

Green obsidian /Labrodilite and Rose quartz crystals

2 cups Himilayan Pink sea salt for soaking

Place all ingredients in a warm bath and enjoy for an average of 20 minutes.



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